Six gentle play therapy activities to help children ages 2-5 feel truly heard through the death of a grandparent, loved one, or pet. Their grief is valid. Their feelings matter. Using household items to preserve memory and honor their heart.
Grief is overwhelming for adults. For young children, it's often wordless, unpredictable, and confusing. They don't have the language for loss, so it shows up in play, behavior changes, or seemingly unrelated questions. Your child is trying to make sense of something they cannot yet understand.
These activities aren't about "getting over" death or forcing acceptance. They're about giving your child permission to feel, to remember, and to ask questions in a safe space. Toddlers and preschoolers process grief differently than adults — in short bursts, mixed with play, sometimes seeming "fine" one moment and heartbroken the next. This is all normal.
Be gentle with yourself, too. You may be grieving while parenting a grieving child. It's okay to cry with them. It's okay to not have all the answers. What matters is showing up, being present, and creating a space where their feelings — and yours — are welcome.
These activities use simple language and familiar objects. They're designed to meet children where they are, without pressure or timelines. Come back to them as often as needed. Healing isn't linear.
Simple, comforting items to support gentle grief processing.
For creating a memory box
Pictures of the loved one or pet
For drawing feelings and memories
Storytelling and comfort objects
Creating comfort spaces
Decorating memory items
Goodbye letters or drawings
Memory rituals (with supervision)
Create a special place for treasured memories
Express emotions through art without words
Drawings or messages to honor the person or pet who died
Build soothing routines with a special item
Use puppets to explore loss and memory safely
Create a physical space for remembering together
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Already subscribed? Verify accessWhat to expect: Your child may want to fill the box immediately, or they may add to it slowly over weeks. They might choose items that seem random to you but hold deep meaning for them — a rock from grandma's driveway, a toy their pet used to play with. Don't correct their choices. This box is theirs to curate.
What to say: "This is a special box for remembering [name]. We can put things in here that remind us of them — pictures, drawings, special things. Whenever you want to remember them, we can open it together."
What NOT to say: "Let's pack up Grandpa's things" (sounds like erasure). Instead: "Let's make a treasure box to keep [name] close to our hearts."
What to expect: Your child might draw dark scribbles, bright colors, or seemingly unrelated scenes. Art therapy isn't about creating something pretty — it's about externalizing feelings. A child who draws a black storm cloud isn't "negative" — they're processing sadness in the safest way they know.
What to say: "Can you tell me about your drawing?" Stay curious and open. Don't interpret for them ("Oh, that's a sad picture"). Let them tell you what it means.
What NOT to say: "Why is everything so dark?" or "Draw something happy!" Grief doesn't need to be cheerful to be healthy.
What to expect: For young children, "letters" might be scribbles, drawings, or dictated words you write down. The act of creating something "for" the person who died can be deeply comforting. This isn't about literacy — it's about intention and ritual.
What to say: "Even though [name] can't read this, we can write them a letter or draw them a picture to say what's in our hearts. What do you want to tell them?"
What NOT to say: "They'll see this from heaven!" (Unless this aligns with your beliefs, don't make promises about the afterlife. Focus on the child's need to express, not on metaphysics.)
What to expect: Children often find comfort in tangible objects when they're grieving — a stuffed animal, a blanket, a photo. Creating a ritual around this object (holding it at bedtime, talking to it, carrying it in a backpack) can provide a sense of control and continuity when everything else feels unstable.
What to say: "This [object] is special. We can hold it when we miss [name], or when we feel sad. It's like a hug we can keep with us."
What NOT to say: "You're too old for a comfort toy." Grief regresses us. Let them regress safely.
What to expect: Puppets and stuffed animals create emotional distance that allows children to explore hard feelings without it being "about them." Your child might make the stuffed animal say things they can't say themselves — "The bunny is really sad because its grandma went away." This is healthy displacement, not avoidance.
What to say: Talk TO the stuffed animal: "Oh, Bunny is feeling sad? Tell me more, Bunny." This keeps the play space safe and indirect.
What NOT to say: "Is that how YOU feel?" (breaks the metaphor). Let the animal be the vessel. Your child will connect the dots when they're ready.
What to expect: Creating a small "remembering corner" in your home gives grief a place to live without taking over everything. This isn't a shrine — it's a gentle, child-friendly space where memories are welcomed. Your child might visit it daily, or rarely. Both are okay. The space itself is the anchor, not the frequency of use.
What to say: "This is our special place to remember [name]. We can come here when we miss them, or just look at it and feel close to them."
What NOT to say: "Don't touch that!" (if it becomes too precious). The space should be accessible, not fragile. Let them interact with it freely.
Your child will return to these feelings again and again as they grow. The questions will change, the sadness will resurface, and that's okay. You're not fixing their grief — you're walking alongside it with them. That's the most important thing you can do.
Come back to these activities whenever they're needed. Healing moves in waves, not lines.
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